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We must Train our children in a Positive way! I believe that parents are their children's best teachers. And I believe God, Creator of us all, the Almighty, all knowing Mater, has given us as parents the sole responsibility to educate our own children. Psalm 127:3, "Beloved, children are a gift from the Lord." And the responsibility for these precious gifts lies entirely with the parents. Proverbs 1:8, "Hear my son your father's instruction and do not forsake your mother's teaching." Proverbs 22:6, "Train up a child in the way he should go." Deuteronomy 6:6-7, "And these words which I am commanding you today shall be on your heart and you shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up." The truth is, children are supposed to be taught by their own loving, caring parents. Just think how many times do we ignore the simple request of a child, some acknowledgment that we know they are alive and thrive from interaction from us? How many times do we make empty promises, even knowing when we make them they are just that... an empty promise that will not be kept? Do we bother to stop and think of what long-term effect this has? Or do we do so without thinking at all? Moreover, why do we do this? If we can not follow through on promises, on responsibilty then how can we expect our children to? Adults that dabble in certain lifestyle practices children see this as acceptable? The Lie...The Negative Adam and Eve lived in a garden called Eden, from which four rivers flowed out into the world. Like other earthly paradises in mythologies of the arid Near East, Eden was a well-watered, fertile place that satisfied all of the needs of Adam and Eve. God imposed only one restriction on life in this paradise: not to eat the fruit of a certain tree the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. A sly serpent in the garden persuaded Eve to eat the forbidden fruit, and Adam tasted the fruit as well. The two lost their innocence immediately. Ashamed of their nakedness, they covered themselves with leaves. God saw that they had disobeyed him and drove them from the Garden. God's command given in Genesis 2:16-17 was very positive. The devil took it and made it sound very negative: God said, "YOU MAY EAT OF EVERY TREE EXCEPT ONE" The devil said, "YOU MAY NOT EAT OF EVERY TREE "What was the devil's strategy? HE WANTED EVE TO PAY ATTENTION TO THE ONE RESTRICTION! He wanted Eve to focus upon the ONE TREE she was not to eat from.Consider again the ice cream shop. The owner had said, "OF ALL THE FLAVORS IN THE SHOP YOU MAY FREELY EAT, EXCEPT THE CHOCOLATE CHIP ICE CREAM."That owner in saying this had been very gracious and generous. However a very negative person could come along and say, "Hey, wait a minute, YOU CAN'T EAT OF EVERY FLAVOR. That owner is restricting you. He is not letting you eat every flavor. You are really missing out on something. He will not let you taste THE DELICIOUS CHOCOLATE CHIP ICE CREAM." All of a sudden this kind and generous owner is made to appear as a restrictive killjoy who is seeking to spoil the pleasure of others.We lose sight of the THOU MAYEST FREELY EAT, and all we pay attention to is the THOU SHALL NOT! As young people, you have restrictions that have been placed on you by parents who fear the Lord and are concerned for your welfare. Perhaps there are certain activities that you are not allowed to do. But have you ever thought about all the things that you are allowed to do? Perhaps there are certain places that you are not allowed to go. Have you ever stopped to consider all the places where you can go? Perhaps there is something your parents will not let you have. Think of all the things they do allow you to have. The devil*s strategy is to get us to focus in on the restrictions and to forget all the freedom that we have. All we think about is the chocolate chip ice cream and how cruel the owner is for not allowing us to have it! HAVE YOU BEEN INFLUENCED BY THE DEVIL'S NEGATIVISM? Eve was! The answer that Eve gave clearly shows that she had already taken the bait! The devil*s negative approach had affected her. In Eve*s answer you will see that 1) SHE MINIMIZED HER GOD-GIVEN FREEDOM (verse 2); 2) SHE MAXIMIZED HER GOD-GIVEN RESTRICTION (verse 3). Let us consider these two points: 1) SHE MINIMIZED HER GOD-GIVEN FREEDOM See verse 2-"And the woman said unto the serpent, We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden." Do you see any words that Eve left out? "every" "freely" By omitting these words, she took the very positive statement of God and made it less positive. 2) SHE MAXIMIZED HER GOD-GIVEN RESTRICTION See Verse 3-"But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die." She took God*s one restriction and made it EVEN MORE RESTRICTIVE! What words did she add? "neither shall ye touch it" Satan*s negativism had its effect on Eve and she (perhaps unknowingly) took away from her freedom and added to her restriction! In the garden would Eve ate of the fruit if she was not influenced? Yes it was her choice but God told them that they were not to eat of a certain tree. And they were going on their merry way enjoying 'heaven' right here. It was Influence...that lead them to the choice? We as adults influence our children to make certain choices. Though they must act for themselves when the transfer of power is given to them, we still make a difference in that decission of right or wrong? Children do Minic certain things that Adults do Did You Know?
Recently at the end of July 2008 a well know star, smoking and her son was caught in a photo. The son was holding a lighter as he looked down upon a table with a pack of cigarette's. Children mimic adults. Gone are the days when wholesale apparel vendors stocked only a few basic, unisex kids' styles to satisfy customer demand. That won't fly with today's parent, who expects children's garments to be as synced to top retail trends as his or her own clothing. "The childrenswear market is definitely changing from basic wear to more stylish, trendy outfits [that] mirror adult styles," says Amit Gupta, vice president of MONAG, Victor, N.Y.
Sept. 6, 2005: When pretending to shop for a social evening, children two to six years old were nearly four times as likely to choose cigarettes if their parents smoked and children who viewed PG-13- or R-rated movies were five times as likely to choose wine or beer, according to a study in the September issue of Archives of Pediatrics & Adolescent Medicine. Acknowledging feelings Transfer of Power Transfer of Power Although parents make all decision's for their infants, as the child grows they eventually transfer their decision-making power through the choices they encourage their kids to make. The key word is choices they encourage their kids to make. Those choices have been absorbed into their minds as they have watched adults around them act as they are growing up. Keep in mind these two words: recognize and respect. That means remember to recognize the feelings your children experience and respect them as genuine. This validates what they feel without sympathizing, correcting, or judging them. Also use music and deep breathing as ways to help them get calm. As children become pre-teen and teen their basic beliefs have been influenced in childhood. Their choices now become their own to make, and they are responsible for their own actions. Through the years of development the rules, that parents set in the 'home' setting should never be compromised. There should be no exceptions to rules that have been made in the home as they have grown up. This also teaches respect. The Bible says" Honor thy father and mother". Honor is respect. Respect must be taught just as values, principles, and morals. If a child is taught by the actions of a parent to pray over the meal, then that seed is planted within the heart of the child. If a child watches adults show love, then love is taught, if they see adults show hate and hurt then they are taught that. Train a child in the way he should go, 1. Belief stage: Through observation and trial and error, parents begin to believe in the child's ability to make choices. For example, when pre-teens are given a 10 p.m. curfew, do they stretch out the rules and come in late? Or do they consistently return home at the agreed-upon time? Parents observe these behaviors and form beliefs about their child's ability to make choices. These choices should also be within certain guidelines, as the laws of some communities state times for pre-teens and teens. This also teachers 'respect' for our laws. 2. Allowing stage: Parents allow and encourage their children to make certain decisions. In the example above, parents whose pre-teens come home on time will let them set their own curfew in the future.[ within the law] Learning about Heroe's. At one time children looked upon the 'father' of the home as their hereo. Do they today? When we see games that role play heroe's that the character is discribed as a person of de bauch er y n. pl. de bauch er ies
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a. Extreme indulgence in sensual pleasures; dissipation.
b. debaucheries Orgies 2. Archaic Seduction from morality, allegiance, or duty. We need to open up our eyes and see the real truth behind "The little foxes"
To see full pdf report click here U.S. Census Bureau Parents More Active in Raising Their Children; Parents are taking a more active role in the lives of their children than they did 10 years ago, according to data released today by the U.S. Census Bureau. For example, in 2004, 47 percent of teenagers had restrictions on what they watched on television, when they watched, and for how long, up from 40 percent in 1994 (Table 11). A Child�s Day: 2004 examines the well-being of children younger than 18 and provides an updated look into how they spend their days. This series of 30 tables published by the U.S. Census Bureau is based on the Survey of Income and Program Participation (SIPP) and addresses children�s living arrangements, family characteristics, time spent in child care, academic experience, extracurricular activities and more. According to this latest look into the lives of children, about 68 percent of 3- to 5-year-olds had limits on their television viewing, an increase from 54 percent in 1994. More children 6 to 11 found they, too, were living with restrictions on television: 71 percent in 2004 compared with 60 percent 10 years earlier. In 2004, 53 percent of children younger than 6 ate breakfast with their parents every day (Table 7). That compared with only 22 percent of teenagers who ate breakfast with their parents each morning. Those percentages increased at the dinner table, where 78 percent of children younger than 6 ate dinner nightly with their parents, compared with 57 percent of teenagers. According to the current data, parents continued to exert a positive influence on their children in other ways. Seventy-four percent of kids younger than 6 were praised by their mother or father three or more times a day (Table 6). The same was true for 54 percent of children 6 to 11 and 40 percent of 12- to 17-year-olds. Children 1 to 2 were read to an average of 7.8 times in the previous week of the survey (Table 9), while children 3 to 5 were read to an average of 6.8 times in the previous week. Other highlights:
SIPP produces national-level estimates for the U.S. resident population and subgroups, and allows for the observation of trends over time, particularly of selected characteristics, such as income, eligibility for and participation in transfer programs, household and family composition, labor force behavior, and other associated events.
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